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Questionnaire v0.2 (Horatio)

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As promised @Chae, @thehotelambush thank you for your patience. :love:

Tell me about yourself.
I'm 22. I study computer science. I'm also into Web-Development as possible career path, but I fear that the market for that will be saturated by the time I have my degree that's why I have electrical engineering as my minor
(which I enjoy a lot less, but that doesn't matter. I learn what I have to.)


What do you study or do for a living? How did you come to do that? What do you like or dislike about it?
My family immigrated to Germany so we were ...poor. That shaped my focus on being productive and thrifty with money.
I planed to study something with math, because it's difficult and difficult means high demand on the job market. (That's what the 8 year old me was thinking)
CS was more of a all-or-nothing-choice because I feared that I'm too stupid.
I don't regret it. It's hard for me and everyone seems to be more intelligent, but that's ok.


What are your values, and why?
I watch out for others but I also think that everyone should learn how to take care for themselves.
I respect people who apologize and correct their behavior when they were being rude.
Tolerance and a live and let live-attitude are fundamental.
Being there for the people in you live when they need you.
Just listening to people. Everyone wants to talk and be important, but view people give their time for that. I want to be such a person. But not for everyone. And I also need someone to talk to once in a while.


Because I had zero friends in primary school and, surprisingly, treating people with respect and care keeps them by your side.


What else do you do on a daily basis? What are your interests and hobbies? Why do you do them?
I get up, study for college, do some programming stuff for my GitHub, cook and clean when everyone besides me is busy making money, take a stroll outside and visit a friend.
I usually skip lectures. They are a waste of time. Most material is online.
Interests and hobbies:
As long as I can think I had one or two major hobbies that kept me occupied.
It goes like this:
I learned everything there is about ancient Egypt because I read that they were the best painters and mathematicians of their time, and I happen to be crazy about drawing and painting since forever
Then, after 3 years or so I couldn't find anything new. I began the same process for astronomy, then digital painting (or just art in general), creative writing and so on.
Why? Because every new area of knowledge adds a new layer to reality. Connections that where invisible before become clear all of the sudden.
That way nothing is boring. Learning to see the benefit in every experience eradicates boredom.




Describe your relations with family and friends. What do you like and dislike about them?
Despite all emotional scars and physical punishment - my parents made sure that my little brother and me always had what we needed (from a materialistic point of view) so I don't hate them.
Our grandparents raised us because they were working all the time.
My father (SLE) and I don't get along. It's like we are talking different languages and I find his views to be very superficial. My mother says we are alike, but different (???)
My Mother(IEI) and I get along better although I won't forgive her for never defending me.


Adorkable little LII(ILE?)brother: He looks like the copy paste version of young Einstein.
We get along really well because we share a similar story (uncontrollable emotions, therapy). Although as a boy, and especially as our farther's son he had it a lot harder than me. We have similar views, are tolerant and don't look for reasons to start a fight.


My ISFp grandmother loved me to death and I owe her, but since I can think for myself we don't get along well. She is very conservative...and racist - there I said it.
My (ESI?) grandfather thought me the cool stuff: like how to ride a bicycle.


Friends:
SLE, IEI, ESE: (We know each other for 7-9 years ) Very comfortable because we have the same interests. I am less extroverted than the ESE and SLE, but when I'm alone with IEI it's mostly me who takes the lead. I let her talk. She listens patiently to anyone and I find she should have someone who listens to her.
I only open up to two people (SLI, IEI).


What do you look for in friends? In romantic relationships?
Everyone is my friend until proven otherwise. I like most people for just being themselves and I'm perfectly contempt when they're just around being themselves.
But: I really hate nagging,theatrical or controlling behavior and lecturing.
I can't give attention 24/7.
I am boring and want easy relations. Sex is important but overrated. There are more important things like real trust, honesty and not feeling embarrassed for being yourself.
I absolutely need someone who knows what he wants,is reliable, kind.


I chased an ISFp for 2,5 years and when we finally dated he would say (all on the same day): "You are too emotional!- You are too cold-hearted!- Why are you so quiet? -You talk too much!- You need a drink to loosen up.- Why are you acting like that? Are you drunk?"
He could not make up his mind. Today I know he expected and ENTp, but he got me...




What conflicts have you encountered recently with other people? Why did they happen? Which kinds seem to happen on a regular basis?
My Father and my grandma are very conservative. Especially about immigrants. And I hate it because we are immigrants ourselves and both of them can't even speak the national language properly.
So if they could stop being such hypocrites that would be nice.
I dislike people with X doctor titles, who live in a snow globe, and have no need to look anything up because they know better. I always get into trouble with these kind of people.


How would your friends describe you?
My ESE friend thinks I am smart (though doesn't like hearing me talking about science. I'm pretty sure she just likes the idea that I'm smart.)
IEI,LIE, ILI say I am sweet
The LSI says I'm funny but reckless sometimes
I get along great with an SLI, but think she sees me as helpless.


What do people generally see as your strengths? What do you like about yourself?
I don't give up easily (That is a strength and a weakness) and need to be independent and self-sufficient (if not I get comfortable and can become a freeloader)
I am patient and don't get angry (just frustrated).
I only take calculated risks with bearable consequences. Often people think that I am careless, or that I am too dumb to realize the full extend of a choice or situation, because I act indifferent. It's like I am the only one who sees possible back-up plans or alternative routes.



What are your weaknesses? What criticism do you often face from others? What do you dislike about yourself?
I whish I would speak up for myself more often but then I get called overemotional (by Te-ego types). So I don't say anything at all.
I feel like I need permission to show my feelings and thoughts and I have to hide significant parts of my personality to not shock anyone.
I am too introverted to stay in contact with many people at once and give more than half-assed attention. Although I'd love to.
I am naive and care to much. My gifts are always thoughtful but when I receive something cheap(:impersonal, meaningless) in reaturn I am disappointed because I overestimated the relationship.
When I have little interest in a project I'm bad details.
I need to know the whole picture of a topic or project or I can't work efficiently.


In what areas of life can you manage well on your own? In what areas of your life would you like help?
Clothes, make-up. Being cared for and eating well once in a while is nice.
But not when I'm ill ;I can survive on my own.

I never really know if someone likes me or if they are just being polite.So clear words are appreciated.


What things do you find to be a chore? What things do you enjoy more than others?
Cooking. Eating.
Investing 20 to 40 hours into a painting or code.


What goals, aspirations, or plans do you have for the future? How did you come to have them?
Get a job, make money for simple but nice appartment, simple life, no kids.
People work themselves to death to meet materialistic standards and buy trash they don't need. Children are super expensive and unless you are ready to give up your own live, to give them the love and time they deserve, you don't have them.


If you had enough money to live comfortably for the rest of your life without working, what would you do with your time?
Work.


What traits do you find endearing that others might dislike? What traits are considered positive/neutral by others but tend to annoy you?
These kind of conversations are killing me:
someone but probably ISFp: What do you do with your money
Me: I save it.Why? What should I do?
Someone: Well, um, buy jewelry.
These kind of interactions are fun because everyone is shocked but me:
LIE: It's not your fault. You're just a shitty human being.
LOL. You could see the regret in his eyes instantly. He didn't mean "You suck" what he wanted to say was "Human beings are imperfect. You are human, so don't be so hard on yourself."
I do the same sometimes. And than I feel like dying until I can apologize.


What kinds of things do you do to manage and/or beautify your environment (your room, your house, etc.)? What do you think of daily chores?
I don't unless buying a ton of books counts as "beautify your environment"
Chores: What has to be done, has to be done.
I'm not thr tydiest person though

How do you behave around strangers?
I tend to mirror people. When they're reserved - I am,too. I can act cheerful and super friendly, when I have enough energy though.


How do you react to conflict? What do you do if somebody insults or attacks you?
When it's someone close to me they are probably having a bad day so I just retreat and wait for them to cool down.
When someone hurts my ego I feel like arguing, but I usually don't do that.


What is one common misconception that people have? Explain why it is wrong.
There no "truth". What looks red for me is blue for you and that's ok.


What did you do last Friday?
Friday is cleaning day. I came home from college, we clean after the same routine, then I'm studying again because everyone I know is also a busy college student or works crazy shifts.


If you are doing a video you can stop here and/or choose from the rest of the questions as you like.


What is your biggest accomplishment?
I was into digital painting for three years or more and a publisher wanted one of my pictures for his ballistic publishing series. Sadly it didn't happen because the resolution of my painting wasn't big enough. And you can't just resize it without worsen the quality.
But knowing that I could draw attention with my 17 years was really cool.


What is something you regret?
A LSE told me his mother was murdered a month ago and half an hour later he asked me out.
(he wasn't trying to be manipulative. We didn't see each other often so I guess he took the chance)
I said yes and rejected him after our first date.
This is stupid on so many levels. I feel like Satan.


Who do you admire, and why?
Most LIE for their business logic and having so much energy.
George Carlin for his jokes that are both clever and funny.
Noam Chomsky. Fair. Rational.Genius.


What's been on your mind? Has anything been worrying or concerning you? What problems have you encountered lately?
I am always worried that I am to dumb for my degree and might fail (although right now there is no rational reason to believe that).


What are your religious or spiritual beliefs and why do you hold them?
No. I believe in Science.


What are your political beliefs, and why? To what extent do you care about politics?
You can call me a liberal and a pacifist but I call it common sense. I care about foreign politics and how they are influenced by history, culture and economy.


Would you ever be interested in starting a business? Why or why not? What role would you play in it? What kind of business would it be?
90% of Start-ups fail. I won't bet against the odds.
I'm perfectly contempt being an employee with responsibility and making powerful contributions to a company. But I don't have the delusion that I can make myself important or irreplaceable. Everyone is replaceable.
"Powerful contributions": being up-to-date with technical demands of the environment. Being informed about future trends and act acordingly.


What kind of work environment do you prefer? What do you look for in a job?
I like moderately quiet environments where I can do quality work, for interesting projects, without being distracted every minute.
Nice people.



What is or was your favorite school subject and why?
Everything. Even Sports (parkour). not religion class


How do you approach responsibility? What do you tend to expect of others?
Responsibility is a contract and I'm not keen to be bound by anything.
I fear to overestimate others capabilities, but I don't want to underestimate them and insult their intelligence either.
...Not Sure if I understand the question


Where did you go on your most recent vacation? What did you do there? How did you like it and why?
Beach vacations are boring. I like visiting foreign countries.


What were you like as a kid? How have you changed since you were a child?
I used to be really sensitive. I never cried when I was hurt physically, but when authority figures criticized by me, or when I felt like a failure (perfectionist). As a child I even had to visit a therapist because I cried so often and could not control my emotions.
The therapist didn't do shit for weeks so I left. I got the crying problem under my control. On my own. Like always.


What was your high school experience like?
Worst part of my life. Toxic school environment.


Talk about a significant event from your life.
When I feel like I can't do something I look back at this event:
So my parents chose to dismantle all my furniture without my permission (to experiment with new ideas)
and left me alone with my only save haven in shambles. I was 11. They were sure I couldn't undo the work of two adults, but I reversed the everything with willpower and by using my head.
3 hours later everything was at its place again. I was proud. They were pissed.
This is where I started to be "difficult"




Do you like kids? Why or why not?
Yes, but only when I can give them back. No patience for toddler-drama and screaming.


If you were to raise a child, what would be your main concerns, what measures would you take, and why?
I was a tutor for 7 years and what concerned me the most is that many children and teens honestly think they are stupid or even retarded.
I would want that my child knows he or she can learn anything with right mindset.
Physical punishment is absolutely forbidden


Ever feel stuck in a rut? If yes, describe the causes and your reaction to it.
I love learning and researching, but when I can't find something completely new to me, I lose all motivation to do anything productive. I consume all kinds of movies, buy books, read articles in search for interesting material.
I don't need constantly new Input. Just something that is useful.

How do you see other people as a whole? What do you consider a prevalent social problem? Name one.
I see people as complex individuals who are loosely connected by dynamic cultural or political beliefs.


Everyone things he/she knows the truth. But there is no *truth*, just more viewpoints. And we are ready to kill for these viewpoints.
Teaching people that there is only one right solution to a problem (like in math 2+2 is 4 nothing else) is nonsense. Reality and human beings are more complex that that.
The individual is intelligent and wonderful, the masses are stupid and cruel.


What do you do if you're not getting what you want? What approach do you use?
Suck it up. Life is no fairytale.


Are you comfortable taking leadership roles? In what areas? Why or why not?
When I'm competent enough I can break the project into parts and delegate them to others. Often there is someone better suited than me and I play the advisor role altough I like that less.


How often do you get angry? What kinds of things make you angry?
I don't get angry easily. I have no energy for that.
When I am angry, I retreat to not say anything harmful and find a solution


When my grandmother told me that my black IEI friend should go back to her country.


What is the best thing that happened to you during the past week?
I saw my IEI friend in her wedding dress and she asked me to be her bridesmaid. :cry: Never thought someone would like me that much.


What is the worst thing that happened to you during the past week?
nothing


What is the purpose of life? What do you find personally meaningful in life?
Life has no meaning. Everything is just an experience.
People are meaningful.


What is the most interesting place you have been, and why?
London. Beautiful city, nice architecture, much history and multicultural.


How do you dress or manage your appearance?
I usually don't wear jewerly. Not even earrings. I wear jeans and a shirt. The brightest thing I have is a cyan trenchcoat but everything else is fanciless and dark.
The only jewelry I have are gifts from others and I wear them only to show that I appreciate the effort.


Do you like surprises?
Yes, but I don't like people to randomly come over.


Is there anything else important about you that we should know?
I got into MBTI because I wanted to see what I can do about my weaknesses (being emotional, quiet, introverted) but with socionics I learned appreciate other people and their viewpoints. I learned to see their potential and what keeps them from achieving it. Playing a little role in their life without controlling them (Or by just watching them grow like a flower) became a real joy in my live.



Great questionnaire.

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