Hello everyone :content:,
I have some problems with a coworker whom I type as ISFp or ESFj.
As soon as any marginal problems arise that have loosely something to do with my field of work he thinks I am responsible because I am the newbie. It always turns out that something else is the problem and he could have solved it on his own by thinking a few seconds longer or by checking some documents.
He thinks that I have no direction in my career, he underestimates my learning process without evidence (which I see as negativism trait). He usually goes by his subjective impressions.
He chose to take me under his wing. I don't like to be the fosterling of anyone. His behavior is costs me hours.
He is the only one who behaves that way. Everyone else (including supervisors, boss) told me that I'm doing my job very well.
I already talked to him and he seemed understanding about it but he didn't change his behavior. It's been 8 weeks and he still treats me as if I'm not able to tie my own shoes.
I would like to understand which types (and why) are prone to underestimating people or how interrelationships come into play.
Maybe if I know where his behavior comes from I'll know how to talk to him about it, so he can leave me alone. I feel like he will be pissed if I tell him that his guidance is useless to me and time consuming.
edit: I'm not saying that I don't need help from anyone. I have a lot to learn and since the guy before me was lazy everyone is positively surprised about my results. I would be happy to learn from the ESTj there but he is busy all the time. That other man however slows down my progress and I fear that he goes to my supervisor (again) to complain about problems that turn out to be hot air afterwards
I have some problems with a coworker whom I type as ISFp or ESFj.
As soon as any marginal problems arise that have loosely something to do with my field of work he thinks I am responsible because I am the newbie. It always turns out that something else is the problem and he could have solved it on his own by thinking a few seconds longer or by checking some documents.
He thinks that I have no direction in my career, he underestimates my learning process without evidence (which I see as negativism trait). He usually goes by his subjective impressions.
He chose to take me under his wing. I don't like to be the fosterling of anyone. His behavior is costs me hours.
He is the only one who behaves that way. Everyone else (including supervisors, boss) told me that I'm doing my job very well.
I already talked to him and he seemed understanding about it but he didn't change his behavior. It's been 8 weeks and he still treats me as if I'm not able to tie my own shoes.
I would like to understand which types (and why) are prone to underestimating people or how interrelationships come into play.
Maybe if I know where his behavior comes from I'll know how to talk to him about it, so he can leave me alone. I feel like he will be pissed if I tell him that his guidance is useless to me and time consuming.
edit: I'm not saying that I don't need help from anyone. I have a lot to learn and since the guy before me was lazy everyone is positively surprised about my results. I would be happy to learn from the ESTj there but he is busy all the time. That other man however slows down my progress and I fear that he goes to my supervisor (again) to complain about problems that turn out to be hot air afterwards