Okay, so two days ago I got fired by my ESE boss. I used to work as a waiter at a restaurant. (technically runner, main task was to bring the food to the tables)
And I cant say I did not see it comin. With ESE as my supervisor, it was incredibly hard to just do my job without somehow getting on her nerves (and she on mine). I cant really explain it. At first I thought she was LSE, but she seemed too dense to be Te lead (sorry if this offends anyone, talking about a conflictor here). And I thought she was just pissed off at me for being her supervisor while she should be mine (socionics wise ILI > LSE). But that didnt seem to be it.
Some examples; I like to always plan things in advance while working, seeking the most efficient ways to set my tasks in order, plan them so I walk the least steps, whenever I go upstairs or downstairs, always carry something in your hands etc. My ESE boss has the habit of continually giving orders (which, in and of itself doesnt bother me), but the orders are sometimes obvious (like I was already going to do them or am already doing them and she doesnt even see it), and they throw me off. They mess with my plan to carry things out as I planned and stirr with my brain, slow me down because I have to recalculate the plan so to speak (and then I of course get flak for that whenever I hesitate).
So anyway an example I can think of is; she asked me for the first time (after me working there for 2 months fulltime) to put new candles on the tables. So, naturally, because ive never done it, i ask her where they are, and she gets pissed off. ''seriously, you dont know where they are?'', like really pissed because apparently i had to know, and yes, if i was a sensor and more aware of my surroundings i probably wouldve noticed the box of candles like 10 times, because I always walk past it during work, but i never scan my environment because, like I said, im in my head planning my next move. its always little things like that that set her off and im like i dont know what i did wrong... :confused2:
I think it has to do with me being shit at si.
another example: at the end of the day we have to move in the cushions from the outdoor seats to the inside. so she says, you know how to do it, make sure its in systematical order so the next day we know which pillow goes on which chair, so naturally, i do it. then of she gets pissed because she finds it a mess (yes it might not be as tidy but i put everything in systematical order, thats what matters...). so she gets mad at me for finding it a mess, while really i wouldnt say it is.
another example: I had to move in seats from the outside to the inside, and i ask her where do i put them? so again she gets mad because I hadnt figured it out with my deterrent Si brain that they had to go where the rest of the cushions had to go. I mean at this point im afraid to do things by myself because she always seems to find fault where I see none, thats why I always ask her first. She always seemed to want to be on top of things, basically every little thing you wanted to do you had to ask her if it was okay, and if you simply made a decision yourself for the sake of things running smoother and not letting guests wait for example, she would just be insulted because you didnt consult her first, which to me, seems counterproductive. I mean dont you want your staff/restaurant to be basically running itself?
last example: her demanding of me that I go aroound helping the guests at the restaurant (when there were so little guests that my other colleagues had it all under control, i would just ''overask''/bother them too much), because it was ''friday at 6pm'' (rush hour so to speak). So instead of looking around the restaurant seeing that everything was under control as I would see (and all my other colleagues aswel..) (she apparently has trouble with that, im not sure if it has to do with Ni polr or not), she would get mad at me for folding napkins instead of focussing on the guests which were all set and handled by my colleagues, and litterally send me into the restaurant to basically do nothing, while expecting me to do something and NOT look lost. God the inconsistencies/stupidity of her actions made my blood boil. But yes, she had a better eye for where the cushions had to go i guess :8*
and to prove that im not just a shitty worker; the other managers I had no problems with at all, it was just her, but she happened to be the main one so bad luck on me. and they didnt have a problem with me either. I can remember getting along fine with the SLI/LSI (not exactly sure) and ESI managers. they didnt wanted to be on top of things all the time and only asked for things whenever it was really needed, and let us just do our job otherwise.
Anyway I needed to vent a little, I wanted to ask if anybody else has experience conflictors being your supervisors at the workplace, or just not getting along with conflictors. Also what it is about Te+Ni and weak Fe+Si that just hurts ESEs so badly?
It was like no matter what I did this chick just didnt like me, to the core, lol.
And I cant say I did not see it comin. With ESE as my supervisor, it was incredibly hard to just do my job without somehow getting on her nerves (and she on mine). I cant really explain it. At first I thought she was LSE, but she seemed too dense to be Te lead (sorry if this offends anyone, talking about a conflictor here). And I thought she was just pissed off at me for being her supervisor while she should be mine (socionics wise ILI > LSE). But that didnt seem to be it.
Some examples; I like to always plan things in advance while working, seeking the most efficient ways to set my tasks in order, plan them so I walk the least steps, whenever I go upstairs or downstairs, always carry something in your hands etc. My ESE boss has the habit of continually giving orders (which, in and of itself doesnt bother me), but the orders are sometimes obvious (like I was already going to do them or am already doing them and she doesnt even see it), and they throw me off. They mess with my plan to carry things out as I planned and stirr with my brain, slow me down because I have to recalculate the plan so to speak (and then I of course get flak for that whenever I hesitate).
So anyway an example I can think of is; she asked me for the first time (after me working there for 2 months fulltime) to put new candles on the tables. So, naturally, because ive never done it, i ask her where they are, and she gets pissed off. ''seriously, you dont know where they are?'', like really pissed because apparently i had to know, and yes, if i was a sensor and more aware of my surroundings i probably wouldve noticed the box of candles like 10 times, because I always walk past it during work, but i never scan my environment because, like I said, im in my head planning my next move. its always little things like that that set her off and im like i dont know what i did wrong... :confused2:
I think it has to do with me being shit at si.
another example: at the end of the day we have to move in the cushions from the outdoor seats to the inside. so she says, you know how to do it, make sure its in systematical order so the next day we know which pillow goes on which chair, so naturally, i do it. then of she gets pissed because she finds it a mess (yes it might not be as tidy but i put everything in systematical order, thats what matters...). so she gets mad at me for finding it a mess, while really i wouldnt say it is.
another example: I had to move in seats from the outside to the inside, and i ask her where do i put them? so again she gets mad because I hadnt figured it out with my deterrent Si brain that they had to go where the rest of the cushions had to go. I mean at this point im afraid to do things by myself because she always seems to find fault where I see none, thats why I always ask her first. She always seemed to want to be on top of things, basically every little thing you wanted to do you had to ask her if it was okay, and if you simply made a decision yourself for the sake of things running smoother and not letting guests wait for example, she would just be insulted because you didnt consult her first, which to me, seems counterproductive. I mean dont you want your staff/restaurant to be basically running itself?
last example: her demanding of me that I go aroound helping the guests at the restaurant (when there were so little guests that my other colleagues had it all under control, i would just ''overask''/bother them too much), because it was ''friday at 6pm'' (rush hour so to speak). So instead of looking around the restaurant seeing that everything was under control as I would see (and all my other colleagues aswel..) (she apparently has trouble with that, im not sure if it has to do with Ni polr or not), she would get mad at me for folding napkins instead of focussing on the guests which were all set and handled by my colleagues, and litterally send me into the restaurant to basically do nothing, while expecting me to do something and NOT look lost. God the inconsistencies/stupidity of her actions made my blood boil. But yes, she had a better eye for where the cushions had to go i guess :8*
and to prove that im not just a shitty worker; the other managers I had no problems with at all, it was just her, but she happened to be the main one so bad luck on me. and they didnt have a problem with me either. I can remember getting along fine with the SLI/LSI (not exactly sure) and ESI managers. they didnt wanted to be on top of things all the time and only asked for things whenever it was really needed, and let us just do our job otherwise.
Anyway I needed to vent a little, I wanted to ask if anybody else has experience conflictors being your supervisors at the workplace, or just not getting along with conflictors. Also what it is about Te+Ni and weak Fe+Si that just hurts ESEs so badly?
It was like no matter what I did this chick just didnt like me, to the core, lol.