It's this girl I've gotten reacquainted with who I'm very curious about. She had a troubled childhood and is now quite unhealthy. Displays symptoms of borderline and narcissism. Her parents divorced when she was very young, her mother is insane and her dad fosters a lot of guilt over the divorce. I can't imagine the screaming matches or fights she was resorted to as a child, but it's clear its affected her. She lived with her mum for a while which I think intensified her problems. Now she lives in a fantasy and takes pride in it and expects her dad to fund her and all her whims.
I know she's definitely a 4w3 fix, possibly so/sx because she's constantly looking for group validation. She's very image focused. Her whole identity revolves around being different, she's said she wants to be important by being different. She's VERY emotionally revealing and honest, but I'm unsure about her motivations. She's self pitying, envious, distrustful, has a huge victim mentality despite being quite privileged and fortunate. Her environment validates her behaviour.
I always remember her being nice, kind, accepting and ethical. She still exhibits these behaviours. But her personality is a huge paradox. She's image focused and it's clear she wants to be known for her thoughts and ideas, even though they're not particularly unique. Speaking to her recently, she comes off pretentious and arrogant. VERY hipster. It was sort of like speaking to a child in an adult's body.
I remember her grandmother telling my grandmother stories about her yelling and screaming at her loved ones for everything she wanted, throwing tantrums and crying when she didn't get her way. Just typical bratty behaviour which was further validated by her environment because they gave her everything she wanted out of guilt.
She could give Morrissey a run for his money, tbh.
Thoughts?
I know she's definitely a 4w3 fix, possibly so/sx because she's constantly looking for group validation. She's very image focused. Her whole identity revolves around being different, she's said she wants to be important by being different. She's VERY emotionally revealing and honest, but I'm unsure about her motivations. She's self pitying, envious, distrustful, has a huge victim mentality despite being quite privileged and fortunate. Her environment validates her behaviour.
I always remember her being nice, kind, accepting and ethical. She still exhibits these behaviours. But her personality is a huge paradox. She's image focused and it's clear she wants to be known for her thoughts and ideas, even though they're not particularly unique. Speaking to her recently, she comes off pretentious and arrogant. VERY hipster. It was sort of like speaking to a child in an adult's body.
I remember her grandmother telling my grandmother stories about her yelling and screaming at her loved ones for everything she wanted, throwing tantrums and crying when she didn't get her way. Just typical bratty behaviour which was further validated by her environment because they gave her everything she wanted out of guilt.
She could give Morrissey a run for his money, tbh.
Thoughts?