I thought knowing her more deeply would help me type her, but now it just makes things more confusing because people are so complex. I was hoping an objective perspective would help. If you have any questions, ask and I'll answer as well as I can.
Her characteristics:
-Her values are the lens through which she sees the world, every aspect of her life has to be purposeful and align with those principles. If others around her engage in behavior that goes against those values, she gets angry and uncomfortable, but she's not the type to tell others what to do.
-She's very distrustful and self-sufficient. To others she seems to disrespect authority or try to take over, but it's more due to the fact that authority must prove themselves worthy of her respect, and to be so young (almost 16) she's a lot more practical and put-together so it takes a lot to convince her to listen to you or accept your advice. She is keenly aware of what's in your wheelhouse as far as what type of advice you have the authority and experience to give, will not ask a mechanic how to ice a cake. She often picks up the slack and that's where the taking-over perception comes in, because she kind of does sometimes.
-She's incredibly organized, needs her environment to be organized at all times, and tends to help other people get organized and stay on track without their asking
-She holds herself to extremely high expectations as well, and rarely relaxes. She identifies with her position and is constantly researching about it, trying to be better, and meet the expectation of what she thinks someone of that position should do. She is always busy and never home, usually because she stepped up to meet a need but many people need her. She might have never really gotten a chance to be a kid, but never seemed to miss it. Self-sacrifice seems like a joy to her.
-She is extremely passionate. Her trademark is her screaming her catchphrase "YEAH! LET'S GO!" She's often motivating those around her to be invested and excited and bold, and is known for being a leader.
-On the outside she is tough and confident, and has said that she doesn't like to talk about emotions or pain with people, prefers playful affection and usually considers nurturing to be patronizing. That being said, on multiple occasions I've held her while she cried. When she feels emotions, she feels them extremely deeply. Things that make her emotional tend to be worship music or feeling like a failure (see high expectations) even just a random emotional spell. But it's often so interesting to see how tough she'll be around certain people, when she broke down only moments before.
-She knows who she is, stays true to herself, and tends to think she's right, though deep down she cares what her closest friends think and is known to just go along with what they are doing. She rejects female "norms" but I can tell that sometimes she feels some guilt for not being like other girls.
-She communicates concisely and simply and gets annoyed at people that ask unnecessary questions, give unsolicited advice, too much information, or excessive compliments. If people sugarcoat/censor themselves for sake of being polite, she will cut them off and say "Just tell me the truth." Sometimes when I go off on an abstract tangent she'll just check out, because she finds it irrelevant.
-She's perceptive of other's emotions and quick to make someone smile if they seem hurt. She has never met a stranger and is well-liked but is also very private, was known to never talk in school. She hates to be alone and gets along with many different kinds of people, is very charismatic and loves to entertain people and make them happy. But she has a few people who she has a deep soul connection with and trusts them enough to be open with, and everyone else really just gets the surface of her pretty much.
-She will gladly perform her music for a crowd or crab walk from one seat headrest to another on a moving bus, but she's scared of things like rollercoasters or dogs. Anything that she can't control are some of her biggest fears.
-Her love language is quality time, and being known on a deep level is important to her. She seeks to know others deeply as well.
-There is literally no doubt in my mind that she is an extrovert. She needs constant stimulation and interaction, becomes anxious and sad when she is forced to be introspective. That being said, she's more thoughtful than spontaneous
-She doesn't juggle passions, will only devote herself to one person, hobby, etc at a time and tends to be fiercely loyal
-She's drawn to intelligent, introverted, calm people who can stimulate her with their hidden sense of humor and have a passion/talent like piano, etc
-a real conversation with her and her ENFP best friend:
Me: Your(ENFP) gift is upstairs *hands untyped her present first*
Untyped: *looks at present, then scans ENFP's expression* Your (ENFP) gift is upstairs
ENFP: SHE JUST TOLD ME THAT
Untyped: I know but sometimes you miss things
For reference, she's taken two MBTI tests recently. On 16 personalities she got ESFP. On John's test she got ESFJ.
Her characteristics:
-Her values are the lens through which she sees the world, every aspect of her life has to be purposeful and align with those principles. If others around her engage in behavior that goes against those values, she gets angry and uncomfortable, but she's not the type to tell others what to do.
-She's very distrustful and self-sufficient. To others she seems to disrespect authority or try to take over, but it's more due to the fact that authority must prove themselves worthy of her respect, and to be so young (almost 16) she's a lot more practical and put-together so it takes a lot to convince her to listen to you or accept your advice. She is keenly aware of what's in your wheelhouse as far as what type of advice you have the authority and experience to give, will not ask a mechanic how to ice a cake. She often picks up the slack and that's where the taking-over perception comes in, because she kind of does sometimes.
-She's incredibly organized, needs her environment to be organized at all times, and tends to help other people get organized and stay on track without their asking
-She holds herself to extremely high expectations as well, and rarely relaxes. She identifies with her position and is constantly researching about it, trying to be better, and meet the expectation of what she thinks someone of that position should do. She is always busy and never home, usually because she stepped up to meet a need but many people need her. She might have never really gotten a chance to be a kid, but never seemed to miss it. Self-sacrifice seems like a joy to her.
-She is extremely passionate. Her trademark is her screaming her catchphrase "YEAH! LET'S GO!" She's often motivating those around her to be invested and excited and bold, and is known for being a leader.
-On the outside she is tough and confident, and has said that she doesn't like to talk about emotions or pain with people, prefers playful affection and usually considers nurturing to be patronizing. That being said, on multiple occasions I've held her while she cried. When she feels emotions, she feels them extremely deeply. Things that make her emotional tend to be worship music or feeling like a failure (see high expectations) even just a random emotional spell. But it's often so interesting to see how tough she'll be around certain people, when she broke down only moments before.
-She knows who she is, stays true to herself, and tends to think she's right, though deep down she cares what her closest friends think and is known to just go along with what they are doing. She rejects female "norms" but I can tell that sometimes she feels some guilt for not being like other girls.
-She communicates concisely and simply and gets annoyed at people that ask unnecessary questions, give unsolicited advice, too much information, or excessive compliments. If people sugarcoat/censor themselves for sake of being polite, she will cut them off and say "Just tell me the truth." Sometimes when I go off on an abstract tangent she'll just check out, because she finds it irrelevant.
-She's perceptive of other's emotions and quick to make someone smile if they seem hurt. She has never met a stranger and is well-liked but is also very private, was known to never talk in school. She hates to be alone and gets along with many different kinds of people, is very charismatic and loves to entertain people and make them happy. But she has a few people who she has a deep soul connection with and trusts them enough to be open with, and everyone else really just gets the surface of her pretty much.
-She will gladly perform her music for a crowd or crab walk from one seat headrest to another on a moving bus, but she's scared of things like rollercoasters or dogs. Anything that she can't control are some of her biggest fears.
-Her love language is quality time, and being known on a deep level is important to her. She seeks to know others deeply as well.
-There is literally no doubt in my mind that she is an extrovert. She needs constant stimulation and interaction, becomes anxious and sad when she is forced to be introspective. That being said, she's more thoughtful than spontaneous
-She doesn't juggle passions, will only devote herself to one person, hobby, etc at a time and tends to be fiercely loyal
-She's drawn to intelligent, introverted, calm people who can stimulate her with their hidden sense of humor and have a passion/talent like piano, etc
-a real conversation with her and her ENFP best friend:
Me: Your(ENFP) gift is upstairs *hands untyped her present first*
Untyped: *looks at present, then scans ENFP's expression* Your (ENFP) gift is upstairs
ENFP: SHE JUST TOLD ME THAT
Untyped: I know but sometimes you miss things
For reference, she's taken two MBTI tests recently. On 16 personalities she got ESFP. On John's test she got ESFJ.