Member Questionnaire (Cperdue)

Beauty is the admiration of something physical, mental or emotional. Love is the recognition of ones’ physical, mental or emotional contribution.

Loyalty, ambition and compassion. It takes me a long time to develop real trust in somebody, but when I do I am totally devoted and expect the same in return. I also have a hard time believing in somebody that can’t believe in themselves. (Seems to have changed after a couple of bad relationships.)

I think everybody needs to find faith in SOMETHING. I believe that the universe has a certain amount of energy. When plants, animals, trees, etc. are born or die, that energy continues on. I don’t believe, entirely, in reincarnation because I think the soul and biological/physical differences in species are what gives that energy meaning. I believe this because we can analyze the physical transfer of energy and if that energy is endless, the energy contained within our bodies must transfer in some way, shape or form.

In an ideal world, having a military would be unecessary. Unfortunately, there is too much hostility in the world for that to be the case. War is nasty, but can be necessary if used to liberate, or to isolate a terrorist threat. Power, to me, is a word that can be used to measure ones’ physical and mental fortitude.

Culture is probably the most appealing topic of conversation for me. I love traveling and being a part of a new style of living. I find it so fascinating that everywhere you go, people have some similarities and some radical differences in terms of family, friends, beliefs, hobbies, etc. and nothing is cooler, to me, than being immersed into a way of life that is totally outside of the typical day-to-day life.

I have a heavy focus on self-reliance and motivation. I believe that your mind is the most important thing in the world for you to protect and that, regardless of what happens in your life, you control your response to it. I tend to go in waves when in comes to physical health. I have trouble sticking to a diet or workout routine.

I tend to stay on top of daily chores incredibly well, but when I am around somebody else that can’t keep up, it’s easy for me to become completely demotivated.

I like a films/books that requires quite a bit of critical thinking, or that is just exciting and comical. Lucky Number Slevin (PLOT TWIST) and Guardians of the Galaxy are a couple of my favorite movies. For books, I love the writing style of Kurt Vonnegut because of his dark satire and dystopian point of views.

I’m a sad/happy crier(sp?). A horrible breakup, people being united with loved ones, accomplishing a task that I’ve worked incredibly hard for. Basically, whenever I’m experiencing a true peak emotion. I can be very difficult to read because I, rarely, show my emotions. A good friend, family member, or a cute girl can get me to crack a smile, without too much work, though. Smiling is something that is hard for me to develop the habit of. Sometimes people that don’t know me well mistake me for being sad, or angry, when I’m perfectly fine.

I feel that you create your own sense of belonging. What makes me feel that is being able to help others. Fortunately, I’ve been able to step into a role within my work that allows me to do just that and it has been incredibly fulfilling.

My kindness has been taken advantage of several of times in my life. I’ve learned to be more reserved and have cut off many relationships in my life because of it. What I dislike? I guess it is hard for me to connect with somebody that doesn’t understand my analytical point of views, or dry humor.

I am known to be very dependable and will put 100% into any relationship that I find fulfilling. I’m proud of myself for having the patience to put the right kind of people around me. There were about 4 years (after a rough breakup) where I had to fight my physical dependence for more friends, so that I could change my focus to finding people that add real value into my life.

I’m incredibly ambitious and feed off of other people’s energy. I am always looking for somebody else that has new or refreshing ideas and that can help hold me accountable in working towards the things I want to achieve.

Not anymore. Again, I’m fortunate enough to be working a job that is a constantly changing environment and that keeps things from getting dull. I did when I was working two jobs and unable to afford rent/bills, but I responded by finding something new and taking control of my situation.

I like when people show that they are invested in you as much as you are in them. If there is no reciprocation, I will quickly lose interest. I like all types of people, from the crazy party animals to the most secluded of introverts and feel that I have to social adaptability to connect with either.

Again, I need to see that a partner is invested in me, like I am with them. This includes both physically and emotionally.

My main concern would be to raise a child with great ethics and values. While I would love a child that wants to be involved in sports, I would want to encourage them to be able to find things that they love for themselves and support them 100% I think it is important for a child to be able to encouraged to make some of their own decisions while they are young, so that they are prepared to do so, when they are older.

Inwardly, it intrigues me to hear a different point of view that I may not understand. I will ask lots of questions to try to know their reasoning. Sometimes I can become frustrated with a view that doesn’t make sense to me, logically, but I generally can contain my frustration and outwardly show respect for their views.

I, typically, can get along with all sorts of different types of people. I think that a lot of people base their opinions and beliefs on an emotional bias. I think that the biggest social problem (in the United States) is the two party system. Almost everybody classifies as Republican or Democrat and, because of that, they allow their opinions to be radically generalized one way or another. Because of this, people do not do much critical thinking during the selection process of a candidate and are labeled in a category that may not do justice to their true beliefs.

I need to know that they are going to add value to my life, in some fashion. Some can make me laugh, some can push me to achieve my goals and some do both. Most of the time I can be very goofy and fun-loving. When I’m serious, sometimes they might not know whether I am, or not.

Most of the time I am very conversational, but I don’t generally open up to personal beliefs, or feelings until I am very comfortable. I will, typically, find out what they love or believe in and try to hold on to that topic, so that they reveal more than me. (Probably a bit weary of trusting people because of past experiences of my kindness being taken advantage of.)