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this is the first time i've been able to answer this questionnaire in full (without impulsively abandoning it whenever i got bored or stressed or confused) and it took me ~2 weeks to complete. i probably went through these answers dozens of times and i'm still nowhere near satisfied with it but eh, what can ya do? @thehotelambush tagging you because i promised i would once i finished.
also, thank you for reading. i tried to make it look pretty and organized to lessen the probability of you tearing your hair out while going through it.
General to specific, specific to general – what does it mean?
general > specific would be starting off with a rough outline or sketch (the skeleton) and then adding in the necessary details (the skin) afterwards to make it whole. specific > general would be reading or observing something and extracting from it the main overarching theme of its contents.
What does "logical" mean? What is your understanding? Do you think that it correlates with the common view?
the ability to make assessments or draw conclusions divorced from your personal sentiments and biases. i don't know if it does, but maybe?
How do you explain fractions on the dial of the clock?
think of a clock as a circle graph divided into 12 equal parts. ok this is a tedious mental exercise.
What is a rule? What rules do you have to follow?
a rule is a code of conduct implemented by a high-ranking individual or group of individuals to keep those with less power than themselves in line. you don't technically have to follow any rules but it's generally smarter if you do, unless you're able to effectively defend your reasons for not doing so.
What is hierarchy? Do you need to follow it? Why or why not?
a ranking system that divides individuals based on popularity, class, or power. you don't need to follow it but since hierarchies are designed to pit individuals of differing rankings against one another, it's better to follow it unless you have the gall and the talent to go against the status quo, even if that means standing alone.
What do you think of instructions? Do you use them? Could you write an instruction manual? If so, what type of instruction manual would you most likely write?
i only refer to them when i absolutely need to. otherwise i'll just figure it out as i go along. i've been told that i'd do well as a technical writer so i imagine i could write one if i ever cared to, but i don't. and if i did, i don't know what kind of manual i'd choose to write.
Please explain: "Freedom is in complying with the laws, but not in ignoring the laws"? Do you agree with the statement? Why?
yeah. if you work within the legal system then you have more freedom than a man who works against it. i.e. you have little physical freedom when you're trapped in a cell. making a different would require complying with the laws and staying on the good side of those in power.
but it sounds like a quote you'd read in 1984, like the government is tricking you into believing that freedom comes from complying with the laws.
Tell us how about consistent you are?
i'm consistent in my habits, beliefs, and interests. i can be impulsive, sure, but i think i'm still somehow predictable in my (re)actions. even my writing style has withstood the test of time. i try to switch it up every now and then (such as by incorporating proper capitalization into my writing style) but it doesn't last very long and i usually revert to my old writing style when i feel stressed or angry.
What is a "standard"? Why do people need it?
i think of a standard as a mountain peak, as a set of criteria one must meet to ensure the quality of their product or service. without standards there would be no consistency or objectivity in our evaluations of products or services.
You need to put your home library in order. How do you feel about this activity? How will you approach this task?
if i'm in a good or neutral mood, then i'd be excited about it. if i'm in a bad mood then i'll put it off forever. but first and foremost, i'd lay them out on the table/ground and organize them in chronological order. if i had limited space then i'd sift through the books and eliminate the ones i've read previously and that i don't intend to (re)read / refer to in the future. i'd put them away in a box. if i were serious about the task then i'd also split the books up by genre. i'd have a designated section for books that i plan on reading soon and then another section for my personal favorites.
i recently thought about doing this and in my head i had planned to jot down the titles of all the books i owned and add them to my goodreads account so i wouldn't forget them. i'd then either put them away in a box or donate them to a thrift store. i'd only keep the books i genuinely enjoyed reading, or that i planned on reading eventually.
general > specific would be starting off with a rough outline or sketch (the skeleton) and then adding in the necessary details (the skin) afterwards to make it whole. specific > general would be reading or observing something and extracting from it the main overarching theme of its contents.
What does "logical" mean? What is your understanding? Do you think that it correlates with the common view?
the ability to make assessments or draw conclusions divorced from your personal sentiments and biases. i don't know if it does, but maybe?
How do you explain fractions on the dial of the clock?
think of a clock as a circle graph divided into 12 equal parts. ok this is a tedious mental exercise.
What is a rule? What rules do you have to follow?
a rule is a code of conduct implemented by a high-ranking individual or group of individuals to keep those with less power than themselves in line. you don't technically have to follow any rules but it's generally smarter if you do, unless you're able to effectively defend your reasons for not doing so.
What is hierarchy? Do you need to follow it? Why or why not?
a ranking system that divides individuals based on popularity, class, or power. you don't need to follow it but since hierarchies are designed to pit individuals of differing rankings against one another, it's better to follow it unless you have the gall and the talent to go against the status quo, even if that means standing alone.
What do you think of instructions? Do you use them? Could you write an instruction manual? If so, what type of instruction manual would you most likely write?
i only refer to them when i absolutely need to. otherwise i'll just figure it out as i go along. i've been told that i'd do well as a technical writer so i imagine i could write one if i ever cared to, but i don't. and if i did, i don't know what kind of manual i'd choose to write.
Please explain: "Freedom is in complying with the laws, but not in ignoring the laws"? Do you agree with the statement? Why?
yeah. if you work within the legal system then you have more freedom than a man who works against it. i.e. you have little physical freedom when you're trapped in a cell. making a different would require complying with the laws and staying on the good side of those in power.
but it sounds like a quote you'd read in 1984, like the government is tricking you into believing that freedom comes from complying with the laws.
Tell us how about consistent you are?
i'm consistent in my habits, beliefs, and interests. i can be impulsive, sure, but i think i'm still somehow predictable in my (re)actions. even my writing style has withstood the test of time. i try to switch it up every now and then (such as by incorporating proper capitalization into my writing style) but it doesn't last very long and i usually revert to my old writing style when i feel stressed or angry.
What is a "standard"? Why do people need it?
i think of a standard as a mountain peak, as a set of criteria one must meet to ensure the quality of their product or service. without standards there would be no consistency or objectivity in our evaluations of products or services.
You need to put your home library in order. How do you feel about this activity? How will you approach this task?
if i'm in a good or neutral mood, then i'd be excited about it. if i'm in a bad mood then i'll put it off forever. but first and foremost, i'd lay them out on the table/ground and organize them in chronological order. if i had limited space then i'd sift through the books and eliminate the ones i've read previously and that i don't intend to (re)read / refer to in the future. i'd put them away in a box. if i were serious about the task then i'd also split the books up by genre. i'd have a designated section for books that i plan on reading soon and then another section for my personal favorites.
i recently thought about doing this and in my head i had planned to jot down the titles of all the books i owned and add them to my goodreads account so i wouldn't forget them. i'd then either put them away in a box or donate them to a thrift store. i'd only keep the books i genuinely enjoyed reading, or that i planned on reading eventually.
Block II
What is work in your opinion? Why do people go to work? Are there any parameters where you can distinguish whether you can do this work or not?
a pain in the ass? work is a collection of tasks a higher-up delegates to you in a workplace for compensation upon completion. it's usually an exchange of your time and energy for money. people work so they can support themselves financially, but some do it to gain power. i have a bad habit of underestimating or overestimating the work i'm capable of doing, and it's not uncommon for my insecurities, and sometimes my ego, to skew my assessment of my capabilities (or lack thereof). most of the time, i gravely underestimate myself and then it turns into a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Is there any correlation between quality and quantity? Tell us if or how the price depends on quality?
monopoly, right? there's definitely a correlation between an item's subjective worth and its availability but rarity =/= quality imo. the general rule of thumb is high price = high-medium quality, but you're mostly paying for the label; over-priced. medium price = high-medium quality, still overpaying but generally it's worth it. low price = medium-low quality, it could go either way. it's an image thing, really. people want what they can't have / what others don't have.
How do people determine the quality of work? How do you determine such quality? How well you can determine the quality of any purchase, do you pay any attention to it?
i don't like being put in positions where i have to assess the quality of another person's work. it's something i can do, but not something i like to do. when it comes to determining the quality of a product, i can do it but i don't consciously think about it when i do it.
How do you feel if you didn't finish some work? Does it ever happen? What are the reasons?
it happens regularly and i feel guilty afterwards. i also feel guilty if the work i've done isn't perfect. laziness is why.
What is "interesting work" for you? Please explain in detail.
in detail? uh. work that serves a purpose.
You go to the store and see something you're interested in buying; there is a price tag on it. What parameters are you going to use to understand if it's overpriced, underpriced, or priced correctly?
i think i answered this in question #2.
When you work and someone tells you: "You don't do it right." What is your reaction?
my reaction depends on their delivery. if they immediately start criticizing me in a scathing or accusatory tone without explaining the whys, whats, or hows of my mistakes then i'll become defensive, sometimes i'll even cry. or snap at them. i'm extremely sensitive to criticism. but if they go about it kindly and constructively then i'll try to be more receptive.
There is a professional right next to you. You always see that you can't perform the way they do. Your feelings, thoughts and actions?
i may feels pangs of inferiority here and there but i wouldn't get wound up about it or anything. i may even compliment them.
When you have to ask someone else to help you with the task, how do you feel?
i'd feel embarrassed, like i should know better. there's nothing i dislike more than admitting i don't understand something.
You need to build a pyramid exactly like in Egypt. Your thoughts, feelings and actions?
i'd pay someone to do it for me.
a pain in the ass? work is a collection of tasks a higher-up delegates to you in a workplace for compensation upon completion. it's usually an exchange of your time and energy for money. people work so they can support themselves financially, but some do it to gain power. i have a bad habit of underestimating or overestimating the work i'm capable of doing, and it's not uncommon for my insecurities, and sometimes my ego, to skew my assessment of my capabilities (or lack thereof). most of the time, i gravely underestimate myself and then it turns into a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Is there any correlation between quality and quantity? Tell us if or how the price depends on quality?
monopoly, right? there's definitely a correlation between an item's subjective worth and its availability but rarity =/= quality imo. the general rule of thumb is high price = high-medium quality, but you're mostly paying for the label; over-priced. medium price = high-medium quality, still overpaying but generally it's worth it. low price = medium-low quality, it could go either way. it's an image thing, really. people want what they can't have / what others don't have.
How do people determine the quality of work? How do you determine such quality? How well you can determine the quality of any purchase, do you pay any attention to it?
i don't like being put in positions where i have to assess the quality of another person's work. it's something i can do, but not something i like to do. when it comes to determining the quality of a product, i can do it but i don't consciously think about it when i do it.
How do you feel if you didn't finish some work? Does it ever happen? What are the reasons?
it happens regularly and i feel guilty afterwards. i also feel guilty if the work i've done isn't perfect. laziness is why.
What is "interesting work" for you? Please explain in detail.
in detail? uh. work that serves a purpose.
You go to the store and see something you're interested in buying; there is a price tag on it. What parameters are you going to use to understand if it's overpriced, underpriced, or priced correctly?
i think i answered this in question #2.
When you work and someone tells you: "You don't do it right." What is your reaction?
my reaction depends on their delivery. if they immediately start criticizing me in a scathing or accusatory tone without explaining the whys, whats, or hows of my mistakes then i'll become defensive, sometimes i'll even cry. or snap at them. i'm extremely sensitive to criticism. but if they go about it kindly and constructively then i'll try to be more receptive.
There is a professional right next to you. You always see that you can't perform the way they do. Your feelings, thoughts and actions?
i may feels pangs of inferiority here and there but i wouldn't get wound up about it or anything. i may even compliment them.
When you have to ask someone else to help you with the task, how do you feel?
i'd feel embarrassed, like i should know better. there's nothing i dislike more than admitting i don't understand something.
You need to build a pyramid exactly like in Egypt. Your thoughts, feelings and actions?
i'd pay someone to do it for me.
Block III
What is beauty? Do you change your opinion about beauty? Does your understanding correlate with the generally accepted notion? What goes beyond the generally accepted notion?
i used to be obsessed with the golden ratio. so, for a while, that was what defined beauty for me. in its most simple form, it is symmetry, but it goes much deeper than that, because there is just as much beauty in imperfection as there is in perfection. it's an upturned nose, a mole on the cheek, a faint scar above the eyebrow. it is what sets you apart from the crowd because with various genetic and appearance modifications being what they are today, emulating and chasing perfection isn't an impressive feat. it is owning what you have and making the best of it, presenting what you didn't choose for yourself, as if you did choose it for yourself. the same principle can be applied to scenery, interior design, and what have you. there's what's objectively considered beautiful and what's subjectively considered beautiful, neither being better or worse than the other. and it's often a mix of the two.
Please describe your understanding of a beautifully dressed person. What is the core of beauty? How do you explain what is beautiful to a person who has never heard about beauty before?
for me personally, it's a style of dress that lines up with current fashion trends, but with a creative or personal twist. mixing and matching past, present, and future trends i.e. mixing a gothic style with a hippie style. it's just as much about the confidence in which you carry yourself while sporting the outfit as it is about the clothes themselves. i described the core of beauty above, so i'd probably use that description to explain what it means to someone who's not familiar with the concept.
Is there a template of understanding what beautiful means for everyone to use? Is there such a term as "classical beauty"? If so, what is it?
society's perception of beauty / aesthetics are in a constant state of flux; symmetry is the only constant i can think of. shibui is a term coined by the japanese, meaning a simple, unobtrusive beauty. a classical beauty would fall into this category. so, it is simplicity and symmetry.
What is comfort? What is coziness? How do you create your comfort and coziness? How do others evaluate your skill in doing so? Do you agree with them?
relaxation, perhaps? i don't think i've ever asked someone to evaluate my comfort-creating skills. and if they have, i don't remember. but i love comfort and when i feel dirty or uncomfortable, it amplifies preexisting negative feelings.
How do you pick your own clothes? Do you follow fashion? Why? Do you know how to select clothes for different types of figures?
kinda but not really. i wouldn't say i go out of my way to follow trends but i can sometimes pick up on them as they're developing and then i subtly incorporate them into my "basic" style of dress, if it's one i like. but i usually opt for simple, comfortable attire.
How do you cook? Do you follow recipes? What do others think of your skill?
i rarely cook, but i suppose it can be fun. i occasionally follow recipes, if it's a dish i've never worked with before, but most of the time i just wing it.
Are you good at color patterns and mixing them and matching?
pretty good, i reckon. i like creating blog themes and layouts for this reason.
If someone is telling you what is beautiful and what is not, what goes with what color and what is not, do you agree with this person?
eh, it depends. i think everyone has their own unique taste. but what works well for one person, won't work well for the next person.
Tell us how you'd design any room, house or an office. Do you do it yourself or trust someone else to do it? Why?
i'd prefer to do it myself. how i'd design it depends on the room, my resources, and my mood.
How do you know if a person has bad taste? Could you give us an example? Do you always trust your own taste or do you seek opinions from others?
i can differentiate between good and bad taste but taste is subjective so i rarely vocalise these opinions, unless i'm asked for my opinion. sometimes i'll seek external opinions but there's no guarantee i'll take the advice i'm given, but sometimes i'll take a person's advice just to make them feel good.
i used to be obsessed with the golden ratio. so, for a while, that was what defined beauty for me. in its most simple form, it is symmetry, but it goes much deeper than that, because there is just as much beauty in imperfection as there is in perfection. it's an upturned nose, a mole on the cheek, a faint scar above the eyebrow. it is what sets you apart from the crowd because with various genetic and appearance modifications being what they are today, emulating and chasing perfection isn't an impressive feat. it is owning what you have and making the best of it, presenting what you didn't choose for yourself, as if you did choose it for yourself. the same principle can be applied to scenery, interior design, and what have you. there's what's objectively considered beautiful and what's subjectively considered beautiful, neither being better or worse than the other. and it's often a mix of the two.
Please describe your understanding of a beautifully dressed person. What is the core of beauty? How do you explain what is beautiful to a person who has never heard about beauty before?
for me personally, it's a style of dress that lines up with current fashion trends, but with a creative or personal twist. mixing and matching past, present, and future trends i.e. mixing a gothic style with a hippie style. it's just as much about the confidence in which you carry yourself while sporting the outfit as it is about the clothes themselves. i described the core of beauty above, so i'd probably use that description to explain what it means to someone who's not familiar with the concept.
Is there a template of understanding what beautiful means for everyone to use? Is there such a term as "classical beauty"? If so, what is it?
society's perception of beauty / aesthetics are in a constant state of flux; symmetry is the only constant i can think of. shibui is a term coined by the japanese, meaning a simple, unobtrusive beauty. a classical beauty would fall into this category. so, it is simplicity and symmetry.
What is comfort? What is coziness? How do you create your comfort and coziness? How do others evaluate your skill in doing so? Do you agree with them?
relaxation, perhaps? i don't think i've ever asked someone to evaluate my comfort-creating skills. and if they have, i don't remember. but i love comfort and when i feel dirty or uncomfortable, it amplifies preexisting negative feelings.
How do you pick your own clothes? Do you follow fashion? Why? Do you know how to select clothes for different types of figures?
kinda but not really. i wouldn't say i go out of my way to follow trends but i can sometimes pick up on them as they're developing and then i subtly incorporate them into my "basic" style of dress, if it's one i like. but i usually opt for simple, comfortable attire.
How do you cook? Do you follow recipes? What do others think of your skill?
i rarely cook, but i suppose it can be fun. i occasionally follow recipes, if it's a dish i've never worked with before, but most of the time i just wing it.
Are you good at color patterns and mixing them and matching?
pretty good, i reckon. i like creating blog themes and layouts for this reason.
If someone is telling you what is beautiful and what is not, what goes with what color and what is not, do you agree with this person?
eh, it depends. i think everyone has their own unique taste. but what works well for one person, won't work well for the next person.
Tell us how you'd design any room, house or an office. Do you do it yourself or trust someone else to do it? Why?
i'd prefer to do it myself. how i'd design it depends on the room, my resources, and my mood.
How do you know if a person has bad taste? Could you give us an example? Do you always trust your own taste or do you seek opinions from others?
i can differentiate between good and bad taste but taste is subjective so i rarely vocalise these opinions, unless i'm asked for my opinion. sometimes i'll seek external opinions but there's no guarantee i'll take the advice i'm given, but sometimes i'll take a person's advice just to make them feel good.
Block IV
Can you line up human resources and make them do things? What methods do you use? Can you press people? If so, how does it happen?
not well, no. i don't like telling people what to do. when i train / coach, i prefer the position of "right hand (wo)man" because i dislike doling out orders, but i do have a good idea of what should be done or changed. i've pressed people for information before but it's not my method of choice, so i'd say i'm ok at it but the guilt that follows is rarely worth it. there are other ways.
when i was younger i used to get extremely frustrated with my teammates for performing poorly and then i'd yell out commands and boss them around until they stopped sucking. i still feel bad about it sometimes. so yep, never again.
What is incursion? How do you deal with this? Can you repulse? How easy can you do it?
i had to google that and apparently it means: a sudden or brief attack. how do i deal with it when it happens to me? i bite back. repulsing doesn't come easy to me. i can do it but it's usually a knee-jerk reaction and i'm very skittish during.
What does "my people" and "strangers" mean? When do "my people" become "strangers" and why?
i don't think i consciously categorize people in this way. it probably does happen but i'm not fully aware of it until shit hits the fan. if i'd step in and defend them when they're being attacked then they're "my people" but i do this for strangers, too, if i think they're being treated unfairly. i've even done this for people i disliked, so the line between "my people" and "strangers" is a blurry one.
Are there strategies of attack? Can you use them? When is it justified?
um, let's see. i operate better in the moment so i prepare but i don't plan. over-planning > tunnel vision > restrictive movements. it's smarter to have a rough outline of what you want to do, adjust yourself accordingly, and then move with the moment. most of it is instinctual for me.
it's hard to say when it's justified. i imagine it's one of those things that you know when it happens.
Do you think it's ok to occupy someone else's territory? In what situations?
no, assuming you mean personal space / boundaries. if you persist, even after the person has made it clear to you that they don't like it, then don't feign surprise when they inevitably react. that's just common sense, i think.
What are the methods of volitional force? When is it most effective and in what situations?
idk.
How do you protect yourself and your interests?
idk.
Describe your behavior in the situations of opposition and if you have to use some force?
idk.
Do others think of you as a strong person? Do you think you are a strong person?
some do, some don't. i've been told i look fragile but that i'm also deceptively tough. i'd say i'm emotionally resilient but physically weak.
How do you understand if a person is strong? Are there any signs of a strong person? What is the core of any force? Why do people listen to one person, but not the other?
idk. i can't imagine anybody actually thinking about people and situations this way. i'm definitely aware of these factors when i interact with other people and my environment but it isn't something i can explain with words. you either know what you're doing or you don't.
not well, no. i don't like telling people what to do. when i train / coach, i prefer the position of "right hand (wo)man" because i dislike doling out orders, but i do have a good idea of what should be done or changed. i've pressed people for information before but it's not my method of choice, so i'd say i'm ok at it but the guilt that follows is rarely worth it. there are other ways.
when i was younger i used to get extremely frustrated with my teammates for performing poorly and then i'd yell out commands and boss them around until they stopped sucking. i still feel bad about it sometimes. so yep, never again.
What is incursion? How do you deal with this? Can you repulse? How easy can you do it?
i had to google that and apparently it means: a sudden or brief attack. how do i deal with it when it happens to me? i bite back. repulsing doesn't come easy to me. i can do it but it's usually a knee-jerk reaction and i'm very skittish during.
What does "my people" and "strangers" mean? When do "my people" become "strangers" and why?
i don't think i consciously categorize people in this way. it probably does happen but i'm not fully aware of it until shit hits the fan. if i'd step in and defend them when they're being attacked then they're "my people" but i do this for strangers, too, if i think they're being treated unfairly. i've even done this for people i disliked, so the line between "my people" and "strangers" is a blurry one.
Are there strategies of attack? Can you use them? When is it justified?
um, let's see. i operate better in the moment so i prepare but i don't plan. over-planning > tunnel vision > restrictive movements. it's smarter to have a rough outline of what you want to do, adjust yourself accordingly, and then move with the moment. most of it is instinctual for me.
it's hard to say when it's justified. i imagine it's one of those things that you know when it happens.
Do you think it's ok to occupy someone else's territory? In what situations?
no, assuming you mean personal space / boundaries. if you persist, even after the person has made it clear to you that they don't like it, then don't feign surprise when they inevitably react. that's just common sense, i think.
What are the methods of volitional force? When is it most effective and in what situations?
idk.
How do you protect yourself and your interests?
idk.
Describe your behavior in the situations of opposition and if you have to use some force?
idk.
Do others think of you as a strong person? Do you think you are a strong person?
some do, some don't. i've been told i look fragile but that i'm also deceptively tough. i'd say i'm emotionally resilient but physically weak.
How do you understand if a person is strong? Are there any signs of a strong person? What is the core of any force? Why do people listen to one person, but not the other?
idk. i can't imagine anybody actually thinking about people and situations this way. i'm definitely aware of these factors when i interact with other people and my environment but it isn't something i can explain with words. you either know what you're doing or you don't.
Block V
What is boorishness? Does your understanding of it correlate with the generally accepted notion? How would you explain what boorishness mean to a 10 year old child? How would you explain the same to an adult who does not behave ethically?
google says rudeness. i think everyone's understanding of the term is slightly different. it depends on external factors, such as your country of residence, familial upbringing, and possibly religious affiliation + internal factors, such as your personal sentiments (i.e. "treat others the way you want to be treated"; some like solidarity, others like honesty). there is no "one size fits all" brand of morality, but that won't stop each and every one of us from acting within and enforcing our own code of ethics.
i'd start off by asking them what they think rude behaviour entails and then go from there.
How would you improve the moral of the society?
i don't think anyone is at liberty to answer this.
Can you justify somebody's bad behavior by thinking that he/she wasn't taught how to do so?
sometimes.
Give us your understanding of love. Can you love and punish at the same time?
love is when another person's well-being directly impacts your own. selfless acts don't exist but if you regularly act within what you believe is their best interest because making them happy makes you happy, then that's love. it's kind of like you're connected with an invisible string. the red thread of fate.
depends. i've seen plenty of people try to pass off abusive behaviors as "tough love" and sure, everyone is allowed their fair share of mistakes in life but if there's a clear pattern of legitimate abuse in your relationships then i don't think you can lay claim to love, when your actions consistently suggest otherwise. but in general, i think it's possible to love and punish at the same time.
Have you heard about the Southern hospitality? Everything is for the guest. There is also a German hospitality – the master of the house is always right. What method is the right one? Try to evaluate without the weight of any cultural aspects, traditions, nations etc.
neither is "right". a mix of both is ideal. i think it's important to make your guests feel at home but if they blatantly disrespect you or whomever you live with then don't hesitate to vocalize that discomfort, and if they persist then feel free to show them the door. otherwise, make an effort to be engaging and receptive. why would you invite someone over just to boss them around?
What is sympathy? When do you need to express it? When is it advised not to?
sympathy is an expression of warmth or understanding when someone else is struggling. just as you don't technically need to follow rules, you don't technically need to express sympathy, but it's a good way to build rapport with others. it's fairly easy to tell when someone doesn't want to be pitied. it's important to take the other person's character into consideration first.
Are there any norms of behavior in the society? Do you follow them? Do people always have to follow them? Why?
"please, thank you, aww cute baby!" i follow them most of the time. sometimes i even feel trapped by societal expectations but other times i can't tell right from wrong and i make a total ass of myself. nobody needs to follow social norms. they exist to keep things running smoothly (or so they say) but that doesn't necessarily mean they're correct.
How do you know what attitude among people is right or wrong?
idk. i just do.
What does moral mean? What is immoral? Does your understanding correlate with the others? How can you evaluate the correctness of your own understanding?
you can't evaluate the correctness of your own understanding of morality because it changes year by year, culture by culture, person by person.
Somebody is giving you a negative attitude – what is your reaction? Could you show your own negative attitude toward someone else? If so, how? Could you give a person the silent treatment? How easily do you forgive people?
it depends on my mood, who's giving me a negative attitude, if it's obvious or discrete, and the circumstances surrounding it.
i'm generally passive but i have a tipping point and when i hit it, my frustrations come pouring out all at once. i've learned to rein it in but when i was younger it was like a volcano exploding. it's a mix of built-up of latent resentment on my end + the contrast between my usual self and defensive self. so, to outside observers, my reaction may look disproportionate to the situation, due to a lack of context. as for the silent treatment? kind of, if i felt i needed to prove a point, but keeping a straight face is hard. i'm incredibly playful and for this reason i'm quick to forgive. when i avoid someone, it's usually because i don't think they like me, not necessarily because i dislike them.
google says rudeness. i think everyone's understanding of the term is slightly different. it depends on external factors, such as your country of residence, familial upbringing, and possibly religious affiliation + internal factors, such as your personal sentiments (i.e. "treat others the way you want to be treated"; some like solidarity, others like honesty). there is no "one size fits all" brand of morality, but that won't stop each and every one of us from acting within and enforcing our own code of ethics.
i'd start off by asking them what they think rude behaviour entails and then go from there.
How would you improve the moral of the society?
i don't think anyone is at liberty to answer this.
Can you justify somebody's bad behavior by thinking that he/she wasn't taught how to do so?
sometimes.
Give us your understanding of love. Can you love and punish at the same time?
love is when another person's well-being directly impacts your own. selfless acts don't exist but if you regularly act within what you believe is their best interest because making them happy makes you happy, then that's love. it's kind of like you're connected with an invisible string. the red thread of fate.
depends. i've seen plenty of people try to pass off abusive behaviors as "tough love" and sure, everyone is allowed their fair share of mistakes in life but if there's a clear pattern of legitimate abuse in your relationships then i don't think you can lay claim to love, when your actions consistently suggest otherwise. but in general, i think it's possible to love and punish at the same time.
Have you heard about the Southern hospitality? Everything is for the guest. There is also a German hospitality – the master of the house is always right. What method is the right one? Try to evaluate without the weight of any cultural aspects, traditions, nations etc.
neither is "right". a mix of both is ideal. i think it's important to make your guests feel at home but if they blatantly disrespect you or whomever you live with then don't hesitate to vocalize that discomfort, and if they persist then feel free to show them the door. otherwise, make an effort to be engaging and receptive. why would you invite someone over just to boss them around?
What is sympathy? When do you need to express it? When is it advised not to?
sympathy is an expression of warmth or understanding when someone else is struggling. just as you don't technically need to follow rules, you don't technically need to express sympathy, but it's a good way to build rapport with others. it's fairly easy to tell when someone doesn't want to be pitied. it's important to take the other person's character into consideration first.
Are there any norms of behavior in the society? Do you follow them? Do people always have to follow them? Why?
"please, thank you, aww cute baby!" i follow them most of the time. sometimes i even feel trapped by societal expectations but other times i can't tell right from wrong and i make a total ass of myself. nobody needs to follow social norms. they exist to keep things running smoothly (or so they say) but that doesn't necessarily mean they're correct.
How do you know what attitude among people is right or wrong?
idk. i just do.
What does moral mean? What is immoral? Does your understanding correlate with the others? How can you evaluate the correctness of your own understanding?
you can't evaluate the correctness of your own understanding of morality because it changes year by year, culture by culture, person by person.
Somebody is giving you a negative attitude – what is your reaction? Could you show your own negative attitude toward someone else? If so, how? Could you give a person the silent treatment? How easily do you forgive people?
it depends on my mood, who's giving me a negative attitude, if it's obvious or discrete, and the circumstances surrounding it.
i'm generally passive but i have a tipping point and when i hit it, my frustrations come pouring out all at once. i've learned to rein it in but when i was younger it was like a volcano exploding. it's a mix of built-up of latent resentment on my end + the contrast between my usual self and defensive self. so, to outside observers, my reaction may look disproportionate to the situation, due to a lack of context. as for the silent treatment? kind of, if i felt i needed to prove a point, but keeping a straight face is hard. i'm incredibly playful and for this reason i'm quick to forgive. when i avoid someone, it's usually because i don't think they like me, not necessarily because i dislike them.
Block VI
"Whole world does not cost one tear of child" – how do you understand this phrase? Do you agree with this opinion?
um.
Is it acceptable to express emotions? Give examples of inappropriate expression of emotions.
of course it is, but discerning between acceptable and inappropriate expressions of emotion is hard. reading the room helps. social environments can be an emotional minefield if you don't feel the general mood before interacting with it.
Can you use negative emotions? In what situations?
sure, but where before i might've used it as a manipulation tactic, now i try to channel it into something else.
How do you express negative emotions? What does it look like? What do others think about it?
if i don't filter myself then everything comes pouring out, no-holds-barred melodrama. when i give myself time to process what i'm feeling without focusing on external approval or judgment, it comes out much smoother.
Shallow emotions – what does it mean? Are there any other emotions?
fake, insincere expressions of love, hatred, gratitude, what have you.
What are right or wrong emotions?
is there such a thing? this is a dictatorial way of assessing feelings.
Can you change the emotional state of yourself? Of others? To what side – positive or negative?
kind of. i'm hypersensitive to noises and sounds so if i listen to relaxing songs when i'm experiencing negative feelings, it helps stabilize my mood. trip-hop and instrumentals are good for this. if i do the opposite and listen to aggressive rap music or depressing music then it feeds my bad mood, something like making a mountain out of a molehill. songs that hold sentimental value to me can dampen my mood. i wouldn't say it's easy though. i undergo strong emotional dissonance if a song doesn't coincide with my present mood, like trying to force myself to listen to shallow, upbeat music when i'm feeling down. that's why i always pick neutral or relaxing songs.
i can influence others moods, yeah. whether it's a positive or negative shift depends on what outcome i'm seeking.
What does it mean to "pour out your emotions"? How does it happen?
blah, it's usually out of my control. i have to be incessantly poked, prodded, or provoked for it to come out.
Does your internal emotional state correlate with what you show externally?
eh, sometimes. i suck at cards for this reason.
Do you track what mood you are in throughout the day? Do you notice the mood of others?
funny you should ask. i think i paint the world with my emotions. everything i sense, perceive, etc is filtered through the lens of my ever-shifting moods. in fact, i even have an app called "moodtools" on my phone. i can't always find the right words though, and i get frustrated when i try to talk about / type out my feelings and it comes out wrong.
i always notice the mood of other people. sometimes i'm not paying attention and i overlook obvious signs because my mind's elsewhere but when i'm fully present, so to speak, then i most definitely do.
um.
Is it acceptable to express emotions? Give examples of inappropriate expression of emotions.
of course it is, but discerning between acceptable and inappropriate expressions of emotion is hard. reading the room helps. social environments can be an emotional minefield if you don't feel the general mood before interacting with it.
Can you use negative emotions? In what situations?
sure, but where before i might've used it as a manipulation tactic, now i try to channel it into something else.
How do you express negative emotions? What does it look like? What do others think about it?
if i don't filter myself then everything comes pouring out, no-holds-barred melodrama. when i give myself time to process what i'm feeling without focusing on external approval or judgment, it comes out much smoother.
Shallow emotions – what does it mean? Are there any other emotions?
fake, insincere expressions of love, hatred, gratitude, what have you.
What are right or wrong emotions?
is there such a thing? this is a dictatorial way of assessing feelings.
Can you change the emotional state of yourself? Of others? To what side – positive or negative?
kind of. i'm hypersensitive to noises and sounds so if i listen to relaxing songs when i'm experiencing negative feelings, it helps stabilize my mood. trip-hop and instrumentals are good for this. if i do the opposite and listen to aggressive rap music or depressing music then it feeds my bad mood, something like making a mountain out of a molehill. songs that hold sentimental value to me can dampen my mood. i wouldn't say it's easy though. i undergo strong emotional dissonance if a song doesn't coincide with my present mood, like trying to force myself to listen to shallow, upbeat music when i'm feeling down. that's why i always pick neutral or relaxing songs.
i can influence others moods, yeah. whether it's a positive or negative shift depends on what outcome i'm seeking.
What does it mean to "pour out your emotions"? How does it happen?
blah, it's usually out of my control. i have to be incessantly poked, prodded, or provoked for it to come out.
Does your internal emotional state correlate with what you show externally?
eh, sometimes. i suck at cards for this reason.
Do you track what mood you are in throughout the day? Do you notice the mood of others?
funny you should ask. i think i paint the world with my emotions. everything i sense, perceive, etc is filtered through the lens of my ever-shifting moods. in fact, i even have an app called "moodtools" on my phone. i can't always find the right words though, and i get frustrated when i try to talk about / type out my feelings and it comes out wrong.
i always notice the mood of other people. sometimes i'm not paying attention and i overlook obvious signs because my mind's elsewhere but when i'm fully present, so to speak, then i most definitely do.
Block VII
Do you like surprises?
not when i was a kid. back then i'd (apparently) break down crying if someone sprung a surprise on me. nowadays i believe that stagnancy is death, so.
How people change? How do you feel about those changes? Can others see the changes?
i can't think of a single, comprehensive answer to this question because it depends on who the person is and how it is they're changing. change is inevitable and i'm of the opinion that everyone, regardless of their past or present circumstances / personal flaws or deficiencies, is capable of changing for the better, but i also take entropy into consideration when making these assessments.
it's easier to make note of these changes from afar than up close, like you don't notice your friends growing taller but when you don't see each other for a while, you do. i've had others point out ways in which i've changed but most people have static memories, where their perception of a person is determined primarily by their initial impression - or, in some cases, strongest impression. this is why associate regression takes place when you reconnect with ghosts from your past. i like change but everyday i worry that it's not possible, while silently believing that it is.
Is it true that whatever happens is only for the best?
i flip-flop on this. these lyrics summarise my mentality quite well: "all i ever wanted was to pick apart the day, put the pieces back together my way." i'm prone to thinking about the past and reassessing my life path - the decisions i've made, how they've impacted me, where i'm headed, etc. but at the end of the day, i like to believe that everything will work out in the end. i wish i could be more like this:
"you can spend minutes, hours, days, weeks, or even months over-analyzing a situation; trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could've, would've happened... or you can just leave the pieces on the floor and move the fuck on."
What do you think of horoscopes, fortune telling etc.? Do you believe in luck, lucky fortuity?
i don't care for horoscopes, but there probably is a correlation between birth month and personality. i just don't think pop-crush-cosmo journalists are aware of these subtle intricacies when they write daily horoscopes. fortune telling is intriguing but most of what they do is pattern recognition and interpreting micro and macro expressions. but i'd still visit a fortune teller for funsies because why not?
i don't believe in luck, really, but i do think you can "create" your own luck.
Can you forecast events? Is it even real?
i don't know about events but i have a pretty good handle on how people will react to things so if it's a people-centric event then, if i'm able to put my personal biases aside for a moment, i can make a semi-accurate prediction of how things will pan out.
What is time? How do you feel time? Can you "kill" time? How?
time is a human construct used to measure forward movement from the past to the future. it technically doesn't exist but it helps us organise the world around us with frames of references, mainly cause-and-effect relationships when in reference to history.
i always kill time and i do it by doing a whole lot of nothing.
Is it easy for you to wait for some important event? What if you don’t know when it is supposed to happen?
oh god. when i was a kid, i had a bad habit of romanticising the hell out of fun social events, even if they were months ahead. between the present and the event, i'd just bide my time, excitedly waiting for it to happen. like a christmas present i wanted to open right away. this would result in a LOT of wasted time, lackadaisically daydreaming my days away. with negative impending events, i'd avoid them like the plague; a sea of anxiety would drown me. if i don't know when it's supposed to happen then idk? what can i do besides wait?
Do you need help creating forecasts and determining how something will end? Do you trust those forecasts?
no, unless the person has an impeccable understanding of me and my situation, which they almost never do. when i relay a personal dilemma to someone and they give me their feedback, i can see exactly where i may have miscommunicated or where they may have misunderstood me. i still appreciate the input, because it helps broaden my own understanding i.e. a detail or factor i accidentally overlooked, i'll take those into account.
Are you normally late? How do you react if someone is late?
i guess so, yeah, but not by much. if i can't afford to be late then i'll make a point to be on time. it rarely bothers me, unless it's been made painfully clear to me that they do it because they don't care (for example, they're on time with everyone else but me).
Imagine the situation where you agreed to meet with someone.
Your feelings and actions: a) 20 minutes before the meeting starts,
just casually la-de-daing til they get here.
b) 5 minutes before the meeting starts,
^
c) it is time for the meeting to start, but the person is not here,
^
d) 20 minutes after the meeting start time and the person is not here,
^ except with 50% more awkwardness. thoughts such as: "did i get the time wrong? the location, maybe? they're probably just caught in traffic/caught up with something else/etc."
e) more time and the person is still not here…
if i have their contact information then i'd message or call to see what's up. but, without fail, i'll assume that i went wrong somewhere. this rarely turns out to be the case but, in general, i can be quite ditzy and forgetful. however, it's even rarer that the person is intentionally late so it's unlikely i'll get my panties in a twist over it. it's only when there's a time crunch that i get irritated, but even then i try to remind myself that miscommunication or previously unaccounted-for changes or hang-ups could be at play. and if it's a meeting i'm not looking forward to then i may even secretly celebrate when the plans fall through.
not when i was a kid. back then i'd (apparently) break down crying if someone sprung a surprise on me. nowadays i believe that stagnancy is death, so.
How people change? How do you feel about those changes? Can others see the changes?
i can't think of a single, comprehensive answer to this question because it depends on who the person is and how it is they're changing. change is inevitable and i'm of the opinion that everyone, regardless of their past or present circumstances / personal flaws or deficiencies, is capable of changing for the better, but i also take entropy into consideration when making these assessments.
it's easier to make note of these changes from afar than up close, like you don't notice your friends growing taller but when you don't see each other for a while, you do. i've had others point out ways in which i've changed but most people have static memories, where their perception of a person is determined primarily by their initial impression - or, in some cases, strongest impression. this is why associate regression takes place when you reconnect with ghosts from your past. i like change but everyday i worry that it's not possible, while silently believing that it is.
Is it true that whatever happens is only for the best?
i flip-flop on this. these lyrics summarise my mentality quite well: "all i ever wanted was to pick apart the day, put the pieces back together my way." i'm prone to thinking about the past and reassessing my life path - the decisions i've made, how they've impacted me, where i'm headed, etc. but at the end of the day, i like to believe that everything will work out in the end. i wish i could be more like this:
"you can spend minutes, hours, days, weeks, or even months over-analyzing a situation; trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could've, would've happened... or you can just leave the pieces on the floor and move the fuck on."
What do you think of horoscopes, fortune telling etc.? Do you believe in luck, lucky fortuity?
i don't care for horoscopes, but there probably is a correlation between birth month and personality. i just don't think pop-crush-cosmo journalists are aware of these subtle intricacies when they write daily horoscopes. fortune telling is intriguing but most of what they do is pattern recognition and interpreting micro and macro expressions. but i'd still visit a fortune teller for funsies because why not?
i don't believe in luck, really, but i do think you can "create" your own luck.
Can you forecast events? Is it even real?
i don't know about events but i have a pretty good handle on how people will react to things so if it's a people-centric event then, if i'm able to put my personal biases aside for a moment, i can make a semi-accurate prediction of how things will pan out.
What is time? How do you feel time? Can you "kill" time? How?
time is a human construct used to measure forward movement from the past to the future. it technically doesn't exist but it helps us organise the world around us with frames of references, mainly cause-and-effect relationships when in reference to history.
i always kill time and i do it by doing a whole lot of nothing.
Is it easy for you to wait for some important event? What if you don’t know when it is supposed to happen?
oh god. when i was a kid, i had a bad habit of romanticising the hell out of fun social events, even if they were months ahead. between the present and the event, i'd just bide my time, excitedly waiting for it to happen. like a christmas present i wanted to open right away. this would result in a LOT of wasted time, lackadaisically daydreaming my days away. with negative impending events, i'd avoid them like the plague; a sea of anxiety would drown me. if i don't know when it's supposed to happen then idk? what can i do besides wait?
Do you need help creating forecasts and determining how something will end? Do you trust those forecasts?
no, unless the person has an impeccable understanding of me and my situation, which they almost never do. when i relay a personal dilemma to someone and they give me their feedback, i can see exactly where i may have miscommunicated or where they may have misunderstood me. i still appreciate the input, because it helps broaden my own understanding i.e. a detail or factor i accidentally overlooked, i'll take those into account.
Are you normally late? How do you react if someone is late?
i guess so, yeah, but not by much. if i can't afford to be late then i'll make a point to be on time. it rarely bothers me, unless it's been made painfully clear to me that they do it because they don't care (for example, they're on time with everyone else but me).
Imagine the situation where you agreed to meet with someone.
Your feelings and actions: a) 20 minutes before the meeting starts,
just casually la-de-daing til they get here.
b) 5 minutes before the meeting starts,
^
c) it is time for the meeting to start, but the person is not here,
^
d) 20 minutes after the meeting start time and the person is not here,
^ except with 50% more awkwardness. thoughts such as: "did i get the time wrong? the location, maybe? they're probably just caught in traffic/caught up with something else/etc."
e) more time and the person is still not here…
if i have their contact information then i'd message or call to see what's up. but, without fail, i'll assume that i went wrong somewhere. this rarely turns out to be the case but, in general, i can be quite ditzy and forgetful. however, it's even rarer that the person is intentionally late so it's unlikely i'll get my panties in a twist over it. it's only when there's a time crunch that i get irritated, but even then i try to remind myself that miscommunication or previously unaccounted-for changes or hang-ups could be at play. and if it's a meeting i'm not looking forward to then i may even secretly celebrate when the plans fall through.
Block VIII
Is there a meaning of life? In what? Is it the same for everybody?
there isn't one, so life's primarily about making something out of nothing. finding an area of enjoyment or fulfillment and rolling with it. your purpose is like the wind beneath your wings.
What should be done so people can be happy?
maslow's hierarchy of needs. derp.
In the situations with a lot of potential and volatility will you trust your own guts, logically calculating everything or will you ask people you trust what should be done?
erm, whaaa?
When you meet a stranger, what can you say about them right away? How do you know what this person is all about? Does it take long to understand someone's talents?
a lot but idk if i can neatly summarise what methods i use to unearth these findings, nor the nature of them. but i can quickly size a person up based on their sex preferences and the kind of people (romantic or otherwise) that they attract / are attracted to. i'm quite adept at determining if who they claim to be lines up with who they really are, and i notice this in myself, too. lies and contradictions are very easy to spot. and i used to train / coach so i think potential is also easy for me to spot.
Remember an interesting person and call out 5-6 qualities you think are interesting in them. What makes an interesting person? Are you an interesting person? Why? What if someone calls you "boring" and "not interesting"?
crafty, charming, articulate, carefree, complex.
What opinions, from people who know you, seem:
a) fair;
well-intentioned, self-absorbed, whiny, sensitive, emotional, caring, protective, bubbly/goofy/silly, paranoid, lazy, honest, smart (in some ways)
b) not fair;
drawin' a blank here, though i'm sure there's quite a few
c) hurtful;
whiny, paranoid, lazy, selfish, manipulative, ditzy
d) strange.
hard-working, well-intentioned (i try to be but sometimes i fuck up)
this one was hard. i'm sorry, i have a god-awful memory.
Do you fantasize? What kind of fantasies do you have?
always. people make fun of me for it but i have a mental safe space that i retreat into when the world sucks. i'd be significantly less content with myself and life if i didn't fall back on my imagination every once in a while to soften the harsh reality checks life throws at me. annnd if i were to list all the things i fantasize about then we'd be here all night. i'm trapped in my head 24/7.
What qualities should a person have to be successful and why?
ambition, courage, vision, diligence, selfishness, confidence, patience.
What qualities can stop a person from being successful and why?
morality.
What is more important in life – to be a good person or be a successful one? Why? Is a good person always successful? If not, then why?
well, that really depends on what you think being a good person entails. but generally speaking, i don't think successful people are good people and vice versa. i think i'd rather be a good person but then again, i don't really know what kind of success you're referring to here? my brain assumes you mean money, power, fame, and other meaningless bs i couldn't care less about, even though that's not what i would consider "success."
there isn't one, so life's primarily about making something out of nothing. finding an area of enjoyment or fulfillment and rolling with it. your purpose is like the wind beneath your wings.
What should be done so people can be happy?
maslow's hierarchy of needs. derp.
In the situations with a lot of potential and volatility will you trust your own guts, logically calculating everything or will you ask people you trust what should be done?
erm, whaaa?
When you meet a stranger, what can you say about them right away? How do you know what this person is all about? Does it take long to understand someone's talents?
a lot but idk if i can neatly summarise what methods i use to unearth these findings, nor the nature of them. but i can quickly size a person up based on their sex preferences and the kind of people (romantic or otherwise) that they attract / are attracted to. i'm quite adept at determining if who they claim to be lines up with who they really are, and i notice this in myself, too. lies and contradictions are very easy to spot. and i used to train / coach so i think potential is also easy for me to spot.
Remember an interesting person and call out 5-6 qualities you think are interesting in them. What makes an interesting person? Are you an interesting person? Why? What if someone calls you "boring" and "not interesting"?
crafty, charming, articulate, carefree, complex.
What opinions, from people who know you, seem:
a) fair;
well-intentioned, self-absorbed, whiny, sensitive, emotional, caring, protective, bubbly/goofy/silly, paranoid, lazy, honest, smart (in some ways)
b) not fair;
drawin' a blank here, though i'm sure there's quite a few
c) hurtful;
whiny, paranoid, lazy, selfish, manipulative, ditzy
d) strange.
hard-working, well-intentioned (i try to be but sometimes i fuck up)
this one was hard. i'm sorry, i have a god-awful memory.
Do you fantasize? What kind of fantasies do you have?
always. people make fun of me for it but i have a mental safe space that i retreat into when the world sucks. i'd be significantly less content with myself and life if i didn't fall back on my imagination every once in a while to soften the harsh reality checks life throws at me. annnd if i were to list all the things i fantasize about then we'd be here all night. i'm trapped in my head 24/7.
What qualities should a person have to be successful and why?
ambition, courage, vision, diligence, selfishness, confidence, patience.
What qualities can stop a person from being successful and why?
morality.
What is more important in life – to be a good person or be a successful one? Why? Is a good person always successful? If not, then why?
well, that really depends on what you think being a good person entails. but generally speaking, i don't think successful people are good people and vice versa. i think i'd rather be a good person but then again, i don't really know what kind of success you're referring to here? my brain assumes you mean money, power, fame, and other meaningless bs i couldn't care less about, even though that's not what i would consider "success."
this is the first time i've been able to answer this questionnaire in full (without impulsively abandoning it whenever i got bored or stressed or confused) and it took me ~2 weeks to complete. i probably went through these answers dozens of times and i'm still nowhere near satisfied with it but eh, what can ya do? @thehotelambush tagging you because i promised i would once i finished.
also, thank you for reading. i tried to make it look pretty and organized to lessen the probability of you tearing your hair out while going through it.