8s feel like you clash with 1s? I try to be reasonable and I have my own set of principles that I live by but whatever standards the type 1 has for others makes my blood boil. I kind of feel like this post is a cry for help. I don't know how to handle 1s since I have zero interest is even trying to please them, because at the end of the day they can never be made happy by others because no one is perfect and they aren't perfect but they hang on to this fantasy of being able to control other people into their own perfect idea of how they "should be", and the fantasy that they themselves are superior.. but even that delusion doesn't stop them from beating themselves up and obsessing over perfection.This is not directed at anyone on this site, I'm dealing with some 1s at work, and I my mother was a 1 but shes deceased. No one was good enough for her and she had to manipulate and monopolize everyone but her life was out of control but she never gave up trying to humiliate people passive aggressively in an attempt to change them. So working along a lady that is around my age but looks and act likes my mom is really hard. Talked to another 8 about it who knows way more about enneagram and he informed me that they will never change no matter how many times confront them because they can't spot "crazy" like 8s, they will go to their deaths rebuking others and even pissing off the wrong people and getting socked. This gal is obviously in a very unhealthy state so don't tell me I'm being unfair by mis-representing 1s, because this is about a particular person. As an 8 I don't understand her conflict style, because before I can tell her to blow it out her ass and stop playing make-belief she's a manager she rushes away and pretends not to hear me. I see that and think "what a fucking coward, what a fucking cuntrag, has to sneak up on me, yell, then rush away like a little fucking rat, can't even stick around to see what I do. she's lucky I'm not a psycho bitch...." I've reported her to HR and that helped for a few weeks but shes back to breathing down my neck even tho im not new and we are literal equals in titles. So how have you dealt with them, anyone, not just 8s, and 1s, why are some 1s like this and what's the best approach because my approach will lose me my job that pays the rent.
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